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FRIENDS Actor Matthew Perry and actress Julia Roberts

Matthew Perryis sharing more secrets.

TheFriendsalum, 53, reveals in his upcoming memoir,Friends, Lovers and the Big Terrible Thing, that he couldn’t believe he found himself datingJulia Robertswhile shootingFriends.

The two dated for a few months before Perry called it quits, much to Roberts' surprise.

“Two months later, I was single,” Perry writes. “DatingJulia Robertshad been too much for me. I had been constantly certain that she was going to break up with me. Why would she not? I was not enough; I could never be enough; I was broken, bent, unloveable.”

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Friends (season 2) Episode: The One After the Super Bowl [2] (January 28, 1996) Shown from left: Matthew Perry (as Chandler Bing), Julia Roberts

Perry previously opened up to PEOPLE about the new book and his decades-spanning journey to getting off drugs and alcohol, explaining that “everything starts with sobriety.”

“Because if you don’t have sobriety, you’re going to lose everything that you put in front of it, so my sobriety is right up there,” Perry said earlier this month. “I’m an extremely grateful guy. I’m grateful to be alive, that’s for sure. And that gives me the possibility to do anything.”

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Perry revealed that hehad a near-death experience after his colon burst, resulting in a five-month hospitalization and a colostomy bag. The ordeal also served as a catalyst for him to finally get sober.

“My therapist said, ‘The next time you think about taking OxyContin, just think about having a colostomy bag for the rest of your life,’ " he explained. “And a little window opened, and I crawled through it, and I no longer want OxyContin.”

The Golden Globe nominee also credited hisFriendscostars —Jennifer Aniston,Courteney Cox,Lisa Kudrow,David SchwimmerandMatt LeBlanc— forbeing there for him during his lowest points. He said he was taking 55 Vicodin a day and weighed 128 pounds at one point during the beloved NBC sitcom’s 10-season run from 1994 to 2004, during which he starred as fan-favorite Chandler Bing.

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“They were understanding, and they were patient,” Perry said. “It’s like penguins. In nature, when one is sick or very injured, the other penguins surround it and prop it up and walk around until that penguin can walk on its own. And that’s kind of what the cast did for me.”

Perry also said in a recent interview withThe New York Timesthat he has spent afortune on drug and alcohol treatment.

“I’ve probablyspent $9 million or something trying to get sober,” Perry said. The actor also revealed that he recently celebrated 18 months of sobriety, which would indicate he was newly sober for the popularFriendsreunion special, which aired in May 2021.

Perry’s memoirFriends, Lovers and the Big Terrible Thingis available Nov. 1.

If you or someone you know is struggling with substance abuse, please contact the SAMHSA helpline at 1-800-662-HELP.

source: people.com